Before starting:
– Is important to mention that here we are talking about healthy limits and boundaries that will benefit children in long term, always from a place of care, love and respect.
Limits and boundaries are NOT ABUSE OF AUTHORITY NOR COERCIVE CONTROL, or any other form of psychological or physical abuse.-
Children need -and respond well to- boundaries as they provide a sense of security.
By establishing clear boundaries, parents help children develop critical life skills, emotional stability, and a strong moral foundation, ultimately contributing to their overall well-being and success.
Children require more than just freedom; they need guidance, support, and a sense of being cared for. Without them, these emotional needs might go unmet and may feel insecure, disrespected, abandoned and neglected. It can confuse them about what behavior is acceptable, leading to frustration and acting outleading to feelings of abandonment.
Something to highlight is they may also develop negative attitudes towards the parent who fails to set these boundaries, potentially leading to long-term emotional and behavioral issues and experience a range of negative emotions and developmental issues, leading to resentment or hatred towards the permissive parent.
Children may interpret the lack of boundaries as a lack of care or attention, feeling that the parent doesn’t care enough to provide guidance and discipline.
They will not take the parent seriously and may frequently challenge their authority, leading to power struggles and defiance. Besides losing respect for a parent who doesn’t enforce rules, seeing them as weak or ineffective authority figures.
Permissive parenting often stems from a desire to be liked or to avoid conflict, but it can result in emotional neglect.
In certain cases, we will find a role reversal where children might take on the parental role, feeling responsible for themselves or their siblings. Making evident parent’s lack of maturity and responsability by not fulfilling their role properly.
Setting and enforcing boundaries is crucial for healthy child development and fostering a positive parent-child relationship. These feelings can impact their relationship with the parent and their overall emotional and social development.
Limits create a structured environment where children know what to expect, which helps them feel secure and safe.
Clear rules and boundaries reduce uncertainty and anxiety, allowing children to feel more confident and secure in their environment.
Without clear boundaries, children may feel insecure and anxious because they don’t know what to expect or how to behave in different situations.
The absence of structure can make the environment feel chaotic, leading to confusion and discomfort.
Kids naturally test boundaries as a part of their development. When there are no boundaries, they might push further in search of limits.
If they don’t find any, they may feel frustrated and test boundaries with other authority figures, such as teachers or other family members, to see how far they can go and to find the limits they crave.
This testing can result in behavioral issues in school and other social settings, as children push against the limits set by any adults.
Tantrums and Outbursts could become part of the daily routine.
A lack of boundaries can foster as well a sense of entitlement, where children believe they can do whatever they want without consequences and they become self-centered, focusing only on their own needs and desires without considering others.
There is no awareness that another being exists and that they are consequences for actions taken.
Difficulty with Self-Control, Impulsivity, Poor Self-Discipline, Struggles with Emotional Regulation, Difficulty Coping, Self-Centeredness, Confusion in Moral Development, Lack of Independence, Difficulty Forming Healthy Relationships, are some of the… let’s say, “side effects”.
This could be very dangerous since personality disorders, unlike psychopathy, comes from childhood traumas and learned behaivour that acts as a coping mechanism.
Spoiled kids make little tirans which in the future will become adults.
We all have raised the society of nowadays.
Until we don’t take accountability for it, this will keep on going into on coming generations.
Setting boundreries Fosters Respect for Others, Teaches Responsibility and Emotional Regulation, Enhances Parent-Child Relationship, Promotes Healthy Development, Decision-Making Skills, and many others psychological tools to upfront life.
Spoiling a child doesn’t show them love, CONSCIOUS PARENTING does.