Ignoring what we truly feel creates misalignment between mind, heart, and action shaping our health and vitality.
Fragmented Within
Incoherence is the state of being internally divided.
It happens when what we think, what we feel, what we say, and what we do are not aligned with each other. It is not simply confusion or doubt. It is contradiction within our own system.
We may think something is right for us but feel resistance in our body. We may feel hurt but say we’re fine. We may desire change but behave in ways that keep everything the same. That gap between inner truth and outer behavior is incoherence.
Human beings function best in alignment. The nervous system is designed for integration. When there is a mismatch between thoughts, emotions, and actions, the body experiences stress. The brain has to constantly manage the contradiction. This creates tension, fatigue, anxiety, a sense of being disconnected from ourselves.
Incoherence often develops as a survival strategy. At some point, it felt safer to suppress a feeling, hide a truth, or adapt to an environment by disconnecting from ourselves. But when that pattern becomes chronic, it creates fragmentation. We begin living in pieces rather than as a whole.
Coherence, in contrast, is integrity. It is when our inner experience and your external expression match. It does not mean acting on every impulse or emotion. It means acknowledging what is true inside us and making conscious choices that do not betray that truth.
What Happens When We Lack Coherence?
When we live in incoherence, when we think one thing, feel another, say something different, and do something else, we create division inside ourselves. And the body and psyche does not experience division lightly.
In the body, incoherence registers as stress. The nervous system is constantly scanning for safety and stability.
When our internal signals contradict each other, our system cannot settle. One part of us is saying “this is wrong,” another part is saying “keep going,” and our body remains in a subtle state of alert. This tension can, and probably will show up as sickness. It’s not because the body is punishing us. It’s because it is holding unresolved conflict. And the body is letting us know. It creates friction. We may feel irritable without knowing why, restless, anxious, or numb.
When we repeatedly override our feelings, our emotional system becomes either hyperreactive or muted. Some people explode. Others shut down. Both are signs of internal misalignment.
There is fragmentation in our psyche, in our spirit. We start losing clarity about what we truly want or feel. This can be a dangerous state. Decision-making becomes harder. Self-trust weakens. There is often an underlying sense of “I am not fully here” or “something in me is not being lived.” This is because parts of us are being silenced to maintain an external image or situation. And it may also lead to a chronic feeling of dissatisfaction.
Incoherence feels like disconnection from ourselves. The soul moves toward authenticity, growth, and expression. When we consistently betray our inner knowing, there is a quiet contraction. Life may feel heavy, flat, or directionless. We may feel that you are surviving rather than truly living.
Remember that the body speaks through symptoms, and the soul speaks through dissatisfaction and longing.
None of this is meant to create fear. Incoherence is very human. Most of us learned it as protection. But when it becomes a lifestyle, it drains vitality.
When we begin restoring coherence… when what we think, feel, say, and do is aligned… something shifts.
We feel how everything flows.
We know exactly what we want .
We have direction in life. There is less internal noise.
We trust our intuition.
We respect ourselves. Coherence is integration. Integration is acceptance.
Acceptance is love and love conquers all.
